7. Sacredness C

Thomas Merton, Trappist monk and social activist, wrote in Conjectures of a Guilty Bystander, “Then it was as if I suddenly saw the secret beauty of their hearts, the person that each one is in God’s eyes. If only they could all see themselves as they really are. If only we could see each other that way all the time. There would be no more war, no more hatred, no more cruelty, no more greed.”

Compassion illuminates the sacred within us. When compassion informs our behavior, love and caring flow naturally and it is impossible to run roughshod over the sacred that lies within everything. At those times:

  • Touch cannot be inappropriately sexual or harmful;
  • Productivity cannot mistreat others or the environment;
  • Feelings and behaviors cannot be criticized or repressed;
  • Play cannot be a win-lose contest; and
  • Learning cannot be blocked.


What would it mean for you to know the depth of beauty in your heart and in the essence of every other person?

Think of times such as in those above when the sacredness of yourself and others was present, and other times when that truth was forgotten.

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Who Are We?Open hearts open minds to our inherent curiosity and the Quintessential Intelligence within us. Innocence, softness and acceptance accompany the openness of living in a mystery. It is a safe space for all thoughts, feelings, and actions. Differences are welcomed and honored. Questions and problems are embraced as opportunities rather than treated as burdens.

In interpersonal conflicts, being open to learning is typically thought of merely as wanting to learn about the other person. Such an interaction provides important information and allows another person to feel heard and understood. But if that’s all we learn, we miss what’s crucial for furthering our journey to live in our heart more of the time – learning about our part of the difficulty.


In the face of difficulties, what keeps you from being more in that place of openness and learning?

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Image: I have a pretty foot, don’t I? by ©Rich Berrett



Post 3 HeartfeltAlthough all feelings are natural, heartfelt feelings are polar opposites of feelings that occur when a heart connection is lost. I chose the image for this post as the cover for Becoming Your Own Hero because it so magically represents that unique and special place that sets apart a connection to the heart from all other moments.

Heartfelt feelings such as love, joy, forgiveness, ecstasy and compassion are warm, tender and sensual. Heartless feelings such as blaming anger, disdain and jealousy are cold, hard and harsh.

Heartfelt responses always contain compassion and openness to learning. Compassion will not allow us to disrespect ourselves or compromise another person’s integrity. An openness to learning, particularly about the fears and beliefs that disconnect us from our hearts, leads to living heart-connected more of the time and thereby transforming into a more authentic and powerful person.

For a more complete list of heartfelt and heartless feelings and behaviors click here.


How does thinking of feelings as being either heartfelt or heartless fit into your beliefs about feelings?

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