10. The Sexual Qi CSexual fulfillment is not found in the “G spot” or from any other of today’s conventional pursuits that focus sexuality on getting rather giving. Artificially producing erections or orgasms to build sexual performance, and pornography that encourages narcissism by making humans into sexual objects to be used and discarded, are not formulas leading to sexual fulfillment.

Like everything else in life that is truly satisfying, emotional fulfillment (and sexual fulfillment) is found in the “QI spot.” When sexual experiences include the openness and honesty of heart connections, the giving and caring generate an intimacy, creativity, passion and pleasure that never grows old and boring.


What have your experiences taught you about what truly increases and decreases sexual satisfaction?

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Find Your PurposeThere’s a power arising up calling us into ignition. We feel a renewed need to untangle our beliefs, clear our conscience and release ourselves. Old patterns no longer feel appropriate. We feel compelled to be on our unique journey taking us to our calling, finding true purpose in everything we do. Motivation no longer matters to us here, what’s meant to be is all that really matters, inspiration is our beacon of light, asking us to follow it, to trust in the present moment, to enjoy being committed to our worthy cause. Here, we feel our choices come from a deliberate consciousness empowering us with a full sense of noble purpose. Meaning and significance makes us fearless. Without faltering our gifts, while fostering our sovereignty, we get on the destiny train.

Do you live on purpose?

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9. WWII MemorialSex is one of the most common areas for upsetting differences to occur. Talking and listening with a heart connection during, as well as apart from the sexual experience, creates a safe place for partners to freely express themselves. Their likes, dislikes, fears, need for freedom and emotional connection, shame and fantasies can be shared in a non-judgmental atmosphere of compassion.

Heartfelt communication is loving, exciting, illuminating and satisfying. Feeling listened to and understood encourages partners to discover new things about each other. A sense of safety blossoms into a fulfilling closeness. The trust that is built allows old wounds to be healed, sexual and emotional intimacy to deepen and new possibilities to emerge. And, Viagra is never needed to keep a heart on.


What needs to happen for you to have the courage to keep your heart on related to your sexuality?

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8. Conflict As RodUpsetting differences occur in all relationships. Whenever such upsets occur, an openhearted discussion produces an entirely different interaction from when there is an intention to be right and convince others to see things our way.

Differences then become opportunities to learn more about each other and become more emotionally intimate. This is especially true when our paramount intent is to explore and develop a deeper connection to our authentic self, our heart, by learning about why we believe as we do.

Think about the profound learning and changes that can occur from explorations such as:

  • If I’m sure that my way is the right way, what makes me so sure, and what happens when I try to convince other’s that I’m right?
  • Where did this belief come from and what is the fear of finding out that my belief may be right for me but not universally true?
  • What is my fear of discovering that I might be better served if I changed my belief?


Think about a recent argument you’ve had and what might have had happened if one of you had been open to learning.

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There’s a guiding impulse within propelling us into action.

We feel strong urges to follow our instincts and do what our intuition tells us.

We have illuminating flashes of insight that cause us to stop what we’re doing and look inside, to listen for the voice commanding our attention, driving our desires and pushing our gifts into existence.

Like a battery, needing sparks of positive ignition and negative charge, this life impulse informs our destiny, moving us along in disruptive velocity on our evolutionary path.

Like it or not, we cannot hold back. It moves us so.

Here, we feel, time is now and we must find our soul mates, our right livelihoods, our genius, all of it, now.

We become genuinely born from the heart of our deepest cares and utmost concern. We open ourselves to new experiences.

Without holding back anymore, through an ongoing process of creative response, we begin to live in a constant state of discovery.

Do you feel this impulse?

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7. Sacredness C

Thomas Merton, Trappist monk and social activist, wrote in Conjectures of a Guilty Bystander, “Then it was as if I suddenly saw the secret beauty of their hearts, the person that each one is in God’s eyes. If only they could all see themselves as they really are. If only we could see each other that way all the time. There would be no more war, no more hatred, no more cruelty, no more greed.”

Compassion illuminates the sacred within us. When compassion informs our behavior, love and caring flow naturally and it is impossible to run roughshod over the sacred that lies within everything. At those times:

  • Touch cannot be inappropriately sexual or harmful;
  • Productivity cannot mistreat others or the environment;
  • Feelings and behaviors cannot be criticized or repressed;
  • Play cannot be a win-lose contest; and
  • Learning cannot be blocked.


What would it mean for you to know the depth of beauty in your heart and in the essence of every other person?

Think of times such as in those above when the sacredness of yourself and others was present, and other times when that truth was forgotten.

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QI & Me by Carl Studna, Photographer and Author

From "Click" by Carl Studna

From “Click” by Carl Studna

As a child, I found religion boring and my relationship to God extremely impersonal. The thought of an old man with a long white beard sitting on a throne telling me what’s right and wrong, mixed with thunderbolts of guilt and scorn didn’t sit well!

Entering college and throughout my twenties, I began taking workshops and classes birthed out of the human potential movement. I was initiated into Transcendental Meditation and this decade opened me to an infinite realm of possibilities that I call the nature of reality. I began to witness first hand a greater sense of personal relationship with an ever-expanding Quintessential Intelligence, one that I could open up to, or in to.

As each decade passes, I am constantly reminded that all of my essential answers and inspired visions are birthed through the radiant intelligence of QI.

How QI Informs My Work and Personal Life

I’ve been in love with the craft of photography since age fifteen. Throughout my entire adulthood, it has served as a vehicle for expression, particularly for reflecting the Quintessential Intelligence that created the awesome beauty and light of this world and its inhabitants.

Without consciously realizing it, I gradually began to raise my degree of skill, not just in the craft of photography, but in having greater compassion for my subjects. Somewhere along the path I experienced a metamorphosis and was no longer just a photographer. . .I became a revealer of light.

When I’m taking someone’s portrait it’s so much more than “Say cheese” or “Smile” and click. It’s dancing with QI. My willingness to naturally show up cultivates a relaxed, safe and enjoyable atmosphere that allows their essence to shine through. With my intuition running the show it’s playtime. And, being out of our minds allows magic to happen.

I’m absolutely clear that the key element that must be present to reflect an authentic image in every moment of the camera’s click is love. In nature, by surrendering to QI and my intuition sharpened I feel into the perfect moment to take the picture.

Some of my most fulfilling and rewarding jobs and projects have been birthed through listening to QI’s inner-directive. I’ve learned that it’s rarely about trying to figure out a problem through my mind, as that often brings frustration and stress into my life. It’s always about going within first and deepening my connection with this all-knowing and all-providing wisdom.

Without fail, whenever I give myself over to this high-level listening and honor its path, I witness a greater ease and rhythm guiding my way, and as a result, I feel lighter and more peaceful. Deep gratitude and a heightened sense of purpose give direction to my life that feels aligned and in perfect balance with nature’s ebbs and flows. Each day, I practice giving myself over to Quintessential Intelligence in a richer and more trusting way, and as I do, life’s splendor continues to ripen through every thought, feeling, word and experience.

Practices That Help Me Integrate QI More Into My Life

In my daily practice of meditation, journaling and affirmative prayer I often feel the wise hand of Quintessential Intelligence guiding my way. The more consistently I give myself time each day for reflective stillness the more I become open and receptive to hearing and seeing the perfect insights that offer the right path for me.

About Carl Studna

Carl Studna

Carl Studna is a world-renowned photographer and videographer, inspirational speaker, teacher and multi-award winning author.  Carl’s intimate portraits of influential people ranging from Paul McCartney to His Holiness the Dalai Lama, are published and known worldwide.  The primary theme that weaves its way through Studna’s lectures, workshops, interviews and published works is that life is a sacred journey to be cherished and embraced; awakening to the splendor that lies in life’s seemingly ordinary moment.





6. John Denver GardenAlthough there are many ways to experience the highs of a heart-connection, all of them are transitory. But, it’s not losing heart that creates ongoing difficulties.

Being unaware that we’ve lost our heart leaves us stuck in disconnection. With awareness we have choices. We can continue our disconnected behavior or we can stop and reconnect.

There are many ways to center and balance. It might be as simple as taking a deep breath (or 2, or 3 or more). Whatever it takes to drain away tension, return to serenity, and shift our energy to compassion and learning is what each of us must find for ourselves.


When you’ve lost your heart-connection what do you do to regain it?

(If you have not found ways to re-center yourself try asking others what they do, or try such things as a formal meditation, writing in a journal, engaging in a physical activity, sitting and listening to a favorite piece of calming music, playing with your pet, or dancing in rhythm to music that centers you.).

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Who Are We?Open hearts open minds to our inherent curiosity and the Quintessential Intelligence within us. Innocence, softness and acceptance accompany the openness of living in a mystery. It is a safe space for all thoughts, feelings, and actions. Differences are welcomed and honored. Questions and problems are embraced as opportunities rather than treated as burdens.

In interpersonal conflicts, being open to learning is typically thought of merely as wanting to learn about the other person. Such an interaction provides important information and allows another person to feel heard and understood. But if that’s all we learn, we miss what’s crucial for furthering our journey to live in our heart more of the time – learning about our part of the difficulty.


In the face of difficulties, what keeps you from being more in that place of openness and learning?

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4. Compassion RBCompassion is viscerally feeling empathy in all feeling states. (Although compassion has been commonly defined as “to suffer with,” passion comes from the Latin word that means, “to feel,” and the prefix “com” means “with.”)

In Meeting Jesus Again For The First Time, Marcus J. Borg, former Hundere Distinguished Professor of Religion and Culture at Oregon State University writes, “For Jesus, compassion was the central quality of God and the central moral quality of a life centered in God.”

But, as Parker Palmer world-renowned author and educator writes in To Know as We Are Known, “From our educated people platform we observe, analyze and assess, for that is how we have been taught to know. This means that virtues like compassion are educated away.”


What have your experiences with compassion meant in your life and why is it important?
How does Professor Borg’s statement inform and/or reform your spiritual and religious thinking?

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