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BECOMING A CUNNING LINGUIST

13. Red RocksConsidering the brain as our largest sex organ opens up many new frontiers. Since the mind both represses and frees sexuality, the key to unlocking passion is skill in talking about sex. Sexual issues are probably the most difficult area to talk about openly. Learning about sexuality and communicating about this vulnerable area is a long-term process.

Cunning (def., resourceful, creative, clever, artful) linguists become more and more comfortable discussing sexual feelings, needs, desires and difficulties. They are also great listeners when their partner shares sexual thoughts and feelings. Honest sex talk occurs when people feel safe in expressing themselves. This requires speaking and listening with the heart informing the brain.

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Think about some of the beliefs and fears that get in the way of talking about certain sexual thoughts and feelings. Writing about those beliefs and fears may be an important first step in becoming more comfortable with sex talk.

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THE SEXUAL QI SPOT

10. The Sexual Qi CSexual fulfillment is not found in the “G spot” or from any other of today’s conventional pursuits that focus sexuality on getting rather giving. Artificially producing erections or orgasms to build sexual performance, and pornography that encourages narcissism by making humans into sexual objects to be used and discarded, are not formulas leading to sexual fulfillment.

Like everything else in life that is truly satisfying, emotional fulfillment (and sexual fulfillment) is found in the “QI spot.” When sexual experiences include the openness and honesty of heart connections, the giving and caring generate an intimacy, creativity, passion and pleasure that never grows old and boring.

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What have your experiences taught you about what truly increases and decreases sexual satisfaction?

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