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KEEPING YOUR HEART ON

9. WWII MemorialSex is one of the most common areas for upsetting differences to occur. Talking and listening with a heart connection during, as well as apart from the sexual experience, creates a safe place for partners to freely express themselves. Their likes, dislikes, fears, need for freedom and emotional connection, shame and fantasies can be shared in a non-judgmental atmosphere of compassion.

Heartfelt communication is loving, exciting, illuminating and satisfying. Feeling listened to and understood encourages partners to discover new things about each other. A sense of safety blossoms into a fulfilling closeness. The trust that is built allows old wounds to be healed, sexual and emotional intimacy to deepen and new possibilities to emerge. And, Viagra is never needed to keep a heart on.

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What needs to happen for you to have the courage to keep your heart on related to your sexuality?

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SACREDNESS

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Thomas Merton, Trappist monk and social activist, wrote in Conjectures of a Guilty Bystander, “Then it was as if I suddenly saw the secret beauty of their hearts, the person that each one is in God’s eyes. If only they could all see themselves as they really are. If only we could see each other that way all the time. There would be no more war, no more hatred, no more cruelty, no more greed.”

Compassion illuminates the sacred within us. When compassion informs our behavior, love and caring flow naturally and it is impossible to run roughshod over the sacred that lies within everything. At those times:

  • Touch cannot be inappropriately sexual or harmful;
  • Productivity cannot mistreat others or the environment;
  • Feelings and behaviors cannot be criticized or repressed;
  • Play cannot be a win-lose contest; and
  • Learning cannot be blocked.

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What would it mean for you to know the depth of beauty in your heart and in the essence of every other person?

Think of times such as in those above when the sacredness of yourself and others was present, and other times when that truth was forgotten.

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COMPASSION

4. Compassion RBCompassion is viscerally feeling empathy in all feeling states. (Although compassion has been commonly defined as “to suffer with,” passion comes from the Latin word that means, “to feel,” and the prefix “com” means “with.”)

In Meeting Jesus Again For The First Time, Marcus J. Borg, former Hundere Distinguished Professor of Religion and Culture at Oregon State University writes, “For Jesus, compassion was the central quality of God and the central moral quality of a life centered in God.”

But, as Parker Palmer world-renowned author and educator writes in To Know as We Are Known, “From our educated people platform we observe, analyze and assess, for that is how we have been taught to know. This means that virtues like compassion are educated away.”

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What have your experiences with compassion meant in your life and why is it important?
How does Professor Borg’s statement inform and/or reform your spiritual and religious thinking?

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HEARTFELT or HEARTLESS

Post 3 HeartfeltAlthough all feelings are natural, heartfelt feelings are polar opposites of feelings that occur when a heart connection is lost. I chose the image for this post as the cover for Becoming Your Own Hero because it so magically represents that unique and special place that sets apart a connection to the heart from all other moments.

Heartfelt feelings such as love, joy, forgiveness, ecstasy and compassion are warm, tender and sensual. Heartless feelings such as blaming anger, disdain and jealousy are cold, hard and harsh.

Heartfelt responses always contain compassion and openness to learning. Compassion will not allow us to disrespect ourselves or compromise another person’s integrity. An openness to learning, particularly about the fears and beliefs that disconnect us from our hearts, leads to living heart-connected more of the time and thereby transforming into a more authentic and powerful person.

For a more complete list of heartfelt and heartless feelings and behaviors click here.

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How does thinking of feelings as being either heartfelt or heartless fit into your beliefs about feelings?

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