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CONFLICT AS OPPORTUNITY

8. Conflict As RodUpsetting differences occur in all relationships. Whenever such upsets occur, an openhearted discussion produces an entirely different interaction from when there is an intention to be right and convince others to see things our way.

Differences then become opportunities to learn more about each other and become more emotionally intimate. This is especially true when our paramount intent is to explore and develop a deeper connection to our authentic self, our heart, by learning about why we believe as we do.

Think about the profound learning and changes that can occur from explorations such as:

  • If I’m sure that my way is the right way, what makes me so sure, and what happens when I try to convince other’s that I’m right?
  • Where did this belief come from and what is the fear of finding out that my belief may be right for me but not universally true?
  • What is my fear of discovering that I might be better served if I changed my belief?

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Think about a recent argument you’ve had and what might have had happened if one of you had been open to learning.

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Image: Ghosts ©Rod Pilcher

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HEARTS and QI

swanThe heart is not only the universal symbol for love, it also represents our essence, our authentic self. Whole-heartedness pierces the veil of our separateness and allows satisfying connections to others and to the mystery that is beyond humanness.

Quintessential Intelligence (QI) expressed through the heart leads to the two things that create true fulfillment:

  • Treating others and ourselves respectfully
  • Making a positive difference in the lives of others.

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What do you like about thinking of your heart as your essence/authentic self and Quintessential Intelligence as your way to finding fulfillment? (For a definition of QI click here.)

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Image: Soul Mates by H. Lee Shapiro

A RHAPSODY in QI

Painting by H. Lee Shapiro

When heart-connected we are fully present and in harmony with the moment. Liberated from anxiety, we are centered, in perfect balance and in the flow. It was from skiing that I began learning about living in the flow.

The first time I experienced the high of skiing in the flow, I knew I wanted more. Skiing off-center happened when fear tightened my body. At those times, my skiing certainly wasn’t awful or wrong. It just meant working harder to keep from falling and not skiing as gracefully and joyfully. My skiing goal became learning how to spend more time in that awesome state of flow, and when I lost it, how to get it back.

It wasn’t much of a stretch to transfer my skiing awareness to my life. Remembering times when I experienced the power and bliss of being heart-connected and in the flow, such as walking amongst the towering redwoods, playing with my dog, and making love, felt great.

Realizing how much time I spent disconnected from my heart and off center, especially when confronting upsetting situations, was a sobering shock. Thus began my commitment to living more in the flow of a beautiful melody that I think of as “A Rhapsody in QI.”

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Remember times when you were in the flow and what it felt like. What do you think keeps you from living more of the time in harmony with that blissful state?

For a four minute video using the skiing analogy to illustrate being in the flow of a heart connection Click Here.

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Image: World Cup 1991 Aspen by H. Lee Shapiro

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