Upsetting differences occur in all relationships. Whenever such upsets occur, an openhearted discussion produces an entirely different interaction from when there is an intention to be right and convince others to see things our way.
Differences then become opportunities to learn more about each other and become more emotionally intimate. This is especially true when our paramount intent is to explore and develop a deeper connection to our authentic self, our heart, by learning about why we believe as we do.
Think about the profound learning and changes that can occur from explorations such as:
- If I’m sure that my way is the right way, what makes me so sure, and what happens when I try to convince other’s that I’m right?
- Where did this belief come from and what is the fear of finding out that my belief may be right for me but not universally true?
- What is my fear of discovering that I might be better served if I changed my belief?
Think about a recent argument you’ve had and what might have had happened if one of you had been open to learning.
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