Heartfelt Feelings and Behaviors (partial list)

Heartfelt feelings are soft and warm, accompanied by an openness to learning about oneself and others, and are naturally present when fear is not blocking a heart-connection.

Heartfelt feelings are: Compassion, Love, Empathy, Sympathy, Sadness, Contentment, Serenity, Humility, Fulfillment, Blissful, Joyful, Innocent, Tender, Relaxed, Peaceful, Calm, Gentleness, Sorrow, Harmony, Happiness, Aliveness, Cheerfulness, Sparkling, Vibrant, Delight, Enthusiasm, Lightness, Alertness, Optimism, Glad, Playful, Upbeat, Animated, Ecstatic, Excited, Passionate, Sensual and Freeing.

Heartfelt behaviors are respectful toward oneself and others and include: Caring, Comforting, Nurturing, Affectionate, Giving, Honoring, Reverent, Forgiving, Connecting, Intimate, Graceful, Mindful, Appreciative, Grateful, Crying from joy, Crying from sadness, Considerate, Thoughtful, Poetic, Embracing, Generous, Balanced, Flowing, Receptive, Benevolent, Accepting, Being of service.

Being open to learning includes: Curiosity, Concern, Inquisitiveness, Attentiveness, and Involvement.

Heartless Feelings and Behaviors (partial list)

Heartless feelings are hard and cold, accompanied by a closed mind and result when fear blocks a heart-connection.

Heartless feelings include: Annoyed, Irritated, Belligerent, Combative, Blaming Anger, Enraged, Fuming, Loathing, Hateful, Furious, Hostile, Irate, Mad, Outraged, Pissed-off, Judgmental, Blaming, Condescending, Uptight, Exasperated, Disgusted, Bitter, Hysterical, Despondent, Envious, Greedy, Alienated, Jealous, Spiteful, Resentful, Disheartened, Empty, Bored, Inadequate, Insecure, Distracted, Unhappy, Being a victim, Guilt, Shame, Grouchy, Aloneness, Separate, Lonely, Disconnected, Emotionally distance, Miserable, Anxious, and Needy.

Heartless behaviors are disrespectful to oneself and others and include: Arguing, Judgmentally Critical, Revengeful, Cruel, Quarreling, Ridiculing, Demeaning, Yelling, Hitting, Lecturing, Controlling, Whining, Shaming, Crying as a victim, Threatening and/or carrying out threats, Telling others how and what they should be feeling and/or doing, Avoidance, Withdrawing into indifference, Giving “the silent treatment”,  Imprisoning, Attempting to convince, convert, win over, prove a point, impose guilt, get something, and be understood, and There is no desire to learning about oneself or others.


Feelings and behaviors may sometimes be heartfelt and at other times heartless. For example, sadness that is heartfelt may come from the death of someone important or compassion for what others are experiencing. But, when the fear of taking responsibility for one’s situation blocks a heart-connection, sadness results in the heartless feelings of being a victim and blaming others.

A simple way to determine if a feeling or behavior comes from the heart is to remember that heartfelt responses always contain both compassion and an openness to learning. When both are not present, fear is blocking a heart connection.